Trauma bonding isn’t love.. it’s loyalty to pain. It’s the attachment that forms when fear, hope, and survival are all mixed into one emotional pattern. Unhealed childhood wounds make us attach to familiarity, even when it hurts. Emotional highs and lows feel like passion, but are actually trauma reactivation.
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Our beliefs — both conscious and unconscious — shape our experiences. If you truly believe something is easily attainable, it will manifest accordingly.
To be your authentic self within a relationship is essential. In order to meet someone who is not on your level, you must lower your frequency — and that is never worth it, as you will always come to realize in the end.
Every moment you allow someone who cannot meet you on your level is connected to insecurity.
Pain, when rooted in emotion, is always connected to trauma and insecurity. The same applies to pleasing behavior and all forms of validation-seeking. Even the attitude of disapproving your authentic self is a reflection of inner insecurity.
Everything begins in your mind. What you hold there will manifest in your life — without exception. Keep believing what you’ve always believed, and you’ll keep living what you’ve always lived. Nothing changes until you do.
Time does not exist. Time is simply something we use as a measurement tool — a way to relate our movement and actions (and inactions). In a sense, as we move, we move time itself. This is also why time seems to move differently when we are active versus when we are still.
Dealing with the past of your partner is unhealthy — after all, you are not the same person you once were, right? That’s why healing from it is of the utmost importance before starting a new relationship.
In a relationship, both partners must contribute in whatever ways they can. Contribution is not always financial — it can be emotional support, care for the home, raising the children, or simply showing up with presence and effort.
Being a parent comes with the responsibility of raising your children. But many parents caught up in their role, while forgetting they are lovers too.
When a man takes care of himself on every level, it’s simply called being an adult. So why is it that women in the same position often feel the need to announce themselves as “independent women”?
Society often reduces the idea of “provider” to money. Many believe that a man’s worth is measured only by how much he earns. But the truth is, provision goes far deeper than finances.
Adulthood is not simply measured by age. The legal system may set the bar at 18, but that number is more about convenience and control than true maturity. Age alone doesn’t make someone grown.
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