Many people behave differently when they date. They present a polished version of themselves: pleasing, perfecting, performing.. as if connection requires acting.
But the way you meet someone should be the way you truly are. You can be extra, but authenticity should never be sacrificed.
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Trauma bonding isn’t love.. it’s loyalty to pain. It’s the attachment that forms when fear, hope, and survival are all mixed into one emotional pattern. Unhealed childhood wounds make us attach to familiarity, even when it hurts. Emotional highs and lows feel like passion, but are actually trauma reactivation.
To be your authentic self within a relationship is essential. In order to meet someone who is not on your level, you must lower your frequency — and that is never worth it, as you will always come to realize in the end.
Every moment you allow someone who cannot meet you on your level is connected to insecurity.
Dealing with the past of your partner is unhealthy — after all, you are not the same person you once were, right? That’s why healing from it is of the utmost importance before starting a new relationship.
In a relationship, both partners must contribute in whatever ways they can. Contribution is not always financial — it can be emotional support, care for the home, raising the children, or simply showing up with presence and effort.
Being a parent comes with the responsibility of raising your children. But many parents caught up in their role, while forgetting they are lovers too.
Society often reduces the idea of “provider” to money. Many believe that a man’s worth is measured only by how much he earns. But the truth is, provision goes far deeper than finances.
Most people spend more energy searching for a partner than they do discovering their true purpose. But if you don’t know who you are or what you are here to create, how can you recognize the soul that is meant to walk beside you?
If you truly want to understand relationships, you need to think in terms of frequency. Sometimes you meet someone and, even though the connection feels perfect in that moment, you eventually grow apart.
Many people think people-pleasers are simply kind and selfless, but beneath the surface lies a deeper truth: they are often validation seekers.
Soulmates are never drawn to desperation — they are drawn to alignment. Become what you seek, and you prepare yourself to receive what is already yours.
Never build on intention, plans or promises. Build on progress, action and character.
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